It was more of the, “why would someone want to be with me forever” category. When i get rejected or somebody doesn’t reciprocate the same feelings i never actually get down on myself. I kinda just shrug it off and say, thats cool, i get it, and move on. Because i know what my flaws are. I know what i can give and i know what i’m capable of providing at the moment and it really isn’t that much and i don’t see that changing anytime soon.
Lately i hate writing about these kind of topics. Everyone tends to reply with advice i don’t want, advice i’ve already heard, or advice in general knowing they have no fucking clue who i am. You’re not me, i’m not you. We don’t love the same, we don’t date the same, we don’t carry on in relationships the same. What you have gone/will go through has nothing to do with me and what i will have to go/or have gone through. I would say you can hold your advice to yourself, but nobody listens to me anyways, someone will always feel the need to throw two cents from a soap box at me. Here, I’ll hold my cup out for you.
I just don’t get people. Actually, i just don’t understand me with other people. Nothing is clicking, or maybe i’m just not willing to click. Relationships require a lot of things from a person and i believe i’m too selfish in my own life to willingly give myself freely like that. I have a lot of responsibilities in my life and i feel like all of us as a whole are a bunch of fix-er-uppers, myself especially. Nobody likes sleeping next to the bathroom with the leaky faucet. And after awhile, you are going to have to get that roof looked at. No one comes brand spanking new, and if they do, i’m pretty sure its a lemon.
Maybe its because i have a lot of things to fix with myself and life in general that i don’t want to burden someone else with them as well. Like, i’m constantly trying to save other people from myself. “You don’t want to date me or have me as your girlfriend because i even exhaust myself. Don’t do that to yourself”. I mean, eventually this will all change, i’ll change. That’s why i don’t believe i’ll be alone forever, i think thats a bit dramatic. I just believe i’m going to be single for quite some time until someone tells me to sit the fuck down and chill out because they can handle it. I’m the strongest person i know, and even i can’t handle it most of the time.
it’s like she’s sitting in the middle of my brain, at a desk, recording all of my thoughts on a typewriter for the world to see. (i bolded the line that made me yell, IT’S LIKE I WROTE THIS, and then my neighbors banged on the wall to hush me)
there is really never a time i want your unsolicited opinion about my weight
i don’t care if you think it’s a compliment
i don’t care if you think i’ll be flattered
keep it to yourself, i don’t want to hear it
#WHYYYYY #WHY ARE YOU SO PERFECT OH MY GOD #and can i say: ugh kudos to the people who made this film because #i don’t think i’ve ever been sold on a romantic pairing faster #like #THIS SCENE IS SO GOOD FOR ME YOU DON’T UNDERSTAND #the fact that by this point we have seen them being flirty and playful (‘i’m assigned to the enterprise’ DAMN RIGHT YOU ARE) #but we have no idea they’re together because they’re both grade a professionals and then #THIS HORRIBLE THING HAPPENS AND SHE IS *RIGHT THERE* #and he visibly needs her and visibly wants to completely fall into her and there is so much #that is just UNSPOKEN AND BRILLIANT here like the amount of trust in another person it takes #to be able to be this vulnerable in front of them EVEN WHEN YOU HAVE NOT BEEN TRAINED SINCE BIRTH THAT EMOTIONS ARE THE ENEMY #and then on top of that the amount of bravery and trust it takes to be the person on nyota’s side of this exchange #to go to someone you love in the face of cataclysmic tragedy #and do what you can to be what they need LIKE #this is not an exchange that happens between two people unless those two people know each other inside and out #this is not an exchange that happens between two people unless those two people have built a BEAUTIFULLY constructed bedrock of trust #and it’s done so quickly and so brilliantly and in one moment you can see UTTERLY GORGEOUS DEPTH OF THEIR FEELINGS FOR ONE ANOTHER #I JUST (credit: gyzym)
a bunch of moms are making letters+audio recordings of affirming, validating letters to queer/trans* people who don’t get that kind of support from their moms
i would say more about it but
im kind of busy in this puddle of tears on the floor so
I kind of needed this
And by that I mean the whole stupid, foolhardy concept. I’ve said before that if you really believe there’s a horde of attractive women faking interest in nerdy things just to get your attention, you have a massive case of unwarranted self-importance, and I still believe that. I also believe you’re incredible insecure, and threatened by some ‘enemy’ who is no such thing.
The world of comic books, sci-fi, videogames, all these things, is no longer a boy’s club with a “NO GIRLS ALLOWED” banner hanging on the door, and it never should have been (indeed, I suspect it never really WAS but for this very idea - girls aren’t REAL nerds, especially attractive ones! And then the internet came up and holy shit look, women came out in droves to discuss their interest in these things, going back to the 1980s and earlier like the rest of us). If you insist somehow that it should be, that you should act as some kind of gatekeeper - he is a real nerd, she is not - then quite frankly you are just one of the saddest specimens we have to offer. Many of us grew up being picked on for having a non-mainstream interest, and now that this interest is spreading you attack and snarl and demean and exclude instead of actually being happy that you have new people to share these wonderful interests with.
You complain about games being rehashes, comic book reboots that are just retreads, but actively keep out the new blood and perspectives that could actually offer something you haven’t seen or considered before.
You demean women who cosplay as attention seekers in skimpy outfits, ignoring that they didn’t create those outfits, WE did.
Who cares if someone’s exposure and love for The Avengers came from the movie, and not the comics first?
Who cares if someone plays Angry Birds more than Dark Souls? What, you never fucking played Tetris? Don’t give me that non-game crap.
Oh no, she watches Thor because he’s tall blonde and built like a brick shithouse and isn’t afraid to comment that the guy’s a stud and so’s his brother? Yeah, because you read Tarot: Witch of the Rose for the riveting storytelling and characterization, right?
Oh no, someone’s writing fanfic about Tony Stark and Steve Rogers buttfucking! What a demeaning thing to do to the characters, you say as browsing the pictures I’ve been hired to draw of the women of X-Men having a lesbian orgy.
At the core of it all, for some insane reason, you are so threatened by the presence of women in your interests that you insult, you cajole, you harrass, and you embarrass the rest of us who are just happy to share. You slam women who are attractive and cosplay as NOT REAL NERDS, THEY’RE PREYING ON US POOR WIDDLE MENZ! And when they’re not as attractive as you’d like, you slam them for not meeting your standards. Or you slam them for daring not to give you the time of day when you grope and harass and hit on them. And if you look like me while doing it, that’s even more hilariously hypocritical and out of touch with reality. She’s not there for YOU, bro.
She’s not there for you.
She’s not there for you.
Let that sink in, guys.
She’s not there for you.
She’s not dressing up for you.
She’s not interested in comics for you.
She’s not playing games for you.
She’s. Not. There. For. You.
You are not the center of the universe, you never were and you never SHOULD be. It’s time to share your toys, guys. It’s time to be more mature. It’s time to drop the entitled attitude that insists our standards and our standards alone should be met. You do not hold the keys to the kingdom, for the kingdom has no lock.
My friend Kat - a geek with a cool job making awesome videogames like NFS The Run and mad cosplay skills - said something on Twitter earlier that summed the whole Fake Geek Girl BS up perfectly;
“That’s just it- “fake geek girls” DO NOT EXIST. There are only WOMEN WITH VARYING LEVELS OF INTEREST IN DIFFERENT HOBBIES.”
Many of the women cosplaying at these conventions probably know more about the current state of comics than I do, but I’ll never be asked to prove my nerd cred if I roll up in a Superman tee - and I haven’t bought an issue since the New 52 launched.
Fucking afford them the same courtesy. Don’t be a douchebag.
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You are good at something, stop lying to yourself. You’re good at breaking down comic book plots, cooking ramen perfectly, making your friends happy, knowing the time without looking at a clock, getting the perfect ending at RPG’s, or figuring out the twist ending to movies. Don’t let society tell you your talents are meaningless because they don’t serve an economical purpose. Your talents reflect your interests and passions, and what’s important to you is important.
I am Merida, and I will be shooting for my own hand.
Meryl Streep about her first meeting with Michelle Obama - Times Talks 2009
Myth #1 – Introverts don’t like to talk.
This is not true. Introverts just don’t talk unless they have something to say. They hate small talk. Get an introvert talking about something they are interested in, and they won’t shut up for days.
Myth #2 – Introverts are shy.
Shyness has nothing to do with being an Introvert. Introverts are not necessarily afraid of people. What they need is a reason to interact. They don’t interact for the sake of interacting. If you want to talk to an Introvert, just start talking. Don’t worry about being polite.
Myth #3 – Introverts are rude.
Introverts often don’t see a reason for beating around the bush with social pleasantries. They want everyone to just be real and honest. Unfortunately, this is not acceptable in most settings, so Introverts can feel a lot of pressure to fit in, which they find exhausting.
Myth #4 – Introverts don’t like people.
On the contrary, Introverts intensely value the few friends they have. They can count their close friends on one hand. If you are lucky enough for an introvert to consider you a friend, you probably have a loyal ally for life. Once you have earned their respect as being a person of substance, you’re in.
Myth #5 – Introverts don’t like to go out in public.
Nonsense. Introverts just don’t like to go out in public FOR AS LONG. They also like to avoid the complications that are involved in public activities. They take in data and experiences very quickly, and as a result, don’t need to be there for long to “get it.” They’re ready to go home, recharge, and process it all. In fact, recharging is absolutely crucial for Introverts.
Myth #6 – Introverts always want to be alone.
Introverts are perfectly comfortable with their own thoughts. They think a lot. They daydream. They like to have problems to work on, puzzles to solve. But they can also get incredibly lonely if they don’t have anyone to share their discoveries with. They crave an authentic and sincere connection with ONE PERSON at a time.
Myth #7 – Introverts are weird.
Introverts are often individualists. They don’t follow the crowd. They’d prefer to be valued for their novel ways of living. They think for themselves and because of that, they often challenge the norm. They don’t make most decisions based on what is popular or trendy.
Myth #8 – Introverts are aloof nerds.
Introverts are people who primarily look inward, paying close attention to their thoughts and emotions. It’s not that they are incapable of paying attention to what is going on around them, it’s just that their inner world is much more stimulating and rewarding to them.
Myth #9 – Introverts don’t know how to relax and have fun.
Introverts typically relax at home or in nature, not in busy public places. Introverts are not thrill seekers and adrenaline junkies. If there is too much talking and noise going on, they shut down. Their brains are too sensitive to the neurotransmitter called Dopamine. Introverts and Extroverts have different dominant neuro-pathways. Just look it up.
Myth #10 – Introverts can fix themselves and become Extroverts.
A world without Introverts would be a world with few scientists, musicians, artists, poets, filmmakers, doctors, mathematicians, writers, and philosophers. That being said, there are still plenty of techniques an Extrovert can learn in order to interact with Introverts. (Yes, I reversed these two terms on purpose to show you how biased our society is.) Introverts cannot “fix themselves” and deserve respect for their natural temperament and contributions to the human race. In fact, one study (Silverman, 1986) showed that the percentage of Introverts increases with IQ.